For Parents

I am not a parent, and I am not a parent of a child with a disability. However, I was a kid with a disability. Sometimes, parents of children with disabilities will ask me for advice. I thought I would share it here. Maxy it encourage you greatly.

1. Have the right perspective on the disability. Let's face the facts. Living with a disability is hard. Unless you adopted, you weren't planning on having a child with a disability. You undoubtly are dealing with some sort of resentment and anger. Let me say. That is understandable and ok. However, it is important to focus on all the good. Your child is a blessing, and he/she must know that. Kids are sensitive. Your child will sense wheather you view them as a burden or a precious gift. This impression will be carried with them for the rest of his/her life.Think about it.

2. Find other parents with kids with disabilities. YOU NEED PEOPLE WHO CAN RELATE! Knowing that you are not alone is so important. These people can provide ideas, resources, and a safe way to work through your emotions.

3. Have expectations of your child. Many don't have expections of people with

disabilities, so they don't reach their potential-- whatever that may be.

4. Know that you are the experts-- not the doctors. You are the ones who live with

your child and the disability. Therefore, you are better qualtify to make choices than doctors.

5. Don't lose yourself in your child's disability. He or she needr happy parents. Keep focus on your dreams, your marriage, your relationship with God, and whatever else that makes you you.

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